I was meeting with a local blogger and talking about my site when he asked me why I modeled for my shoots. I told him I know I’m not ugly but I’m certainly not stopping traffic either. My modeling for my own posts is to show that dressing well benefits men from any part of the bell curve.
There’s a strong but false feeling amongst the average men of the world that dressing well is important for already-attractive men. So if you’re not making People’s 50 Sexiest Men Alive list or having women beat down your door, you can’t benefit from upping your style game. This is patently false.
Most attractive men can throw on anything and look good in it. It’s the average or ugly man who needs to pay more attention to his style as a way to compensate for weaknesses and accentuate his strengths. Below are some examples of men who will not be considered handsome of their own right, but look very good because of the way they’re dressed.
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3 comments on “Dressing Well is for Ugly Men”
As a somewhat odd looking sort of middling attractiveness, I must say that the difference in reaction from people – in the office, on the street, whatever – is amplified by my clothing choices. Dressed too far down and I am effectively invisible. Dressed well, even if not overdressed for my rather casual office, but with a week of well-edged beard and hair properly taken care of, well, that’s a different story. In fact, I more or less choose what to wear depending on “what story I want to tell” on a given day. It’s not just the idea of one’s clothing translating to different body language, either: I’ve deliberately experimented with using the same posture, walk, eye contact, etc, on consecutive days with entirely different sorts of clothes, and I’m telling you it makes a difference.
It can, of course, alter how one presents one’s self physically, which women use all the time and men should make more use of. It can make crucial bits of personality shifts into something enormously more attractive, and we who in no way resemble Messrs. Pitt or Clooney should see an even more notable improvement than those gentlemen. But see also item #1 here. Though frankly, being fit is better for many reasons, there’s almost as much benefit to being “hot body, fat personality” for men as much as for women.
I love that you posted this, I say this all the time “to be well dressed is to give one the feeling of inner tranquility”. The confidence that good grooming and a well thought out wardrobe can give a person is priceless.
excellent, excellent point. i used to feel that way, consciously or subconsciously. i felt sort of ridiculous trying to dress up, since i wasn’t a very handsome man, what was the point? i felt foolish. i felt like a fraud.
now i fucking feel great every time i dress up. it makes a huge difference. now i don’t leave the house without looking great. if i’m not looking my best, what’s the point of leaving the house?
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