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Summer Transition

15 September, 2015

Two years ago I wrote an article for Primer Magazine about making the transition from summer to fall. 

As excited as we #menswear nerds get for tweeds, flannels, and layering, it’s still hot in the northern hemisphere for a few more weeks. 

One of the best tricks is to go more seasonal with accessories. A wool tie or pocket square won’t wear any warmer than a silk or cotton alternative and will have the aesthetic connotation of the coming season. 

For casual wear, start leaning a bit more towards the Rugged archetype. The roughness of materials and earth tones associated with this season all hearken from the days when men did work outside. So swap the polo or T-shirt for a Henley and throw on a pair of work boots (both of which are Staples, btw).

Today I’m doing just what I suggest. I have on a summer-weight open-weave suit, but threw on a wool tie and square. I’m even wearing socks again. I’m not sweating in this thing, but there’s no denying that summer is coming to an end. 

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Real Men Wear Whatever They Want

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27 August, 2015

In the four years that I’ve been writing about men’s style, the most commonly issued argument against any of my points is that, “real men dress however they want,” or some other iteration of the same statement.

This standard is not only applied to clothing, but to almost anything else a man does. Real men eat, say, think, do, and be whatever they want. The problem is that the statement is not true in any regard. Real men may be more bold, assertive, and direct, which often leads to them getting, being, or doing what they want more often but it’s always measured against the costs of doing so.

If we were to apply that standard to its extreme, that would mean the crazy bum I see in front of my shop every day is the most masculine man I know. He wears what he wants, says what he wants. In fact, the crazy man even defecates where he wants to. I’ve seen him helped by countless people. He’s been offered a place to stay, been bathed and shaved. Yet he somehow shows up to the same spot every day, wearing different, beaten clothes, and continues to protest anyone who wants to offer him anything but cash. There are no standards of society holding this guy back, he’s a true man who follows the beat of his own drum.

Except I doubt anyone sees him as that, certainly not as a paragon of masculinity.

The problem with doing whatever one wants is that it directly contradicts one of the most universal and essential aspects of masculinity – mastery. Throughout the history of any group of people, be it small tribes, large nation states, or any organization in between, the value of the men has always been based on their utility to the group, and that utility is only applicable if it can be controlled. Uncontrollable men are expelled from groups more quickly than rabid dogs are put down.

If a man wants to be part of civilization, the requirement for doing so is that he controls and gains mastery of his berserker instincts. This means that doing whatever one wants is the antithesis of manhood. Self control and the ability to work within a group is what separates us from beasts. Even more advanced group-based species like wolves have a hierarchy which is dependent on ability but remains cohesive because of the self-control of each member of the pack.

Even the most powerful men in the world are subject to the consequences of their decisions. Kings have been deposed, entire governments have been overthrown, and countless families have been destroyed because of people choosing to do what they want without regard for or at the expense of the apparent consequences.

Whether we like it or not, we are always signaling our status and our fitness within a given group. The same man can wear different clothing in different contexts and be consistent. By doing so he demonstrates self-mastery and an ability to understand the nuance and context of the situation in which he finds himself.

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It may be on a broader scale, like a man dressing in overtly feminine clothing, or on a smaller scale like wearing a suit to the beach, straying too far from the agreed terms of his tribe, calls a man’s fitness to be within a tribe into question.

This is an amoral reality to being non-solitary creatures. In order to work with others and accomplish greater things than we can do on our own, we are required to limit and master ourselves in a way that keeps us in harmony within the group. It’s why we criminalize murderers and rapists. If the standard for manhood were doing whatever one wants, then our pariahs would be our heroes. However, their inability/unwillingness to control themselves is exactly why they’ve been removed from society.

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It’s not just polite or mainstream society which places restrictions on its group members. One of the first and easiest ways to adapt to any subculture is to dress, talk, and otherwise mimic the standards of that culture.

The other week I was at a meeting in a local collective space for small startups. Most of the people who work in that field are the stereotypical urban, environmentally-minded, SJW types who are part of the system but still like to consider themselves as underdogs. As I was checking in, I heard one lean over to his friend and say, “can you believe they’re letting in some bourgois crony?” Ironically he used the same tone and sneer he probably decries on his tumblr when someone from a country club in the 60’s talks about “letting in the riffraff.” Because I was wearing a suit I didn’t fit the dress code of the environment. I knew this wasn’t my tribe so I wasn’t too worried about standing out, in fact I wanted to do so. It was a way for me to signal myself as part of the out-group.

Standing out aesthetically can be considered from fragile, robust, and anti-fragile perspectives.

When a man’s reputation or position within a group is fragile, even tenuous, he needs every opportunity to fit in and continue to assert himself as a worthy member of the group. He can’t afford any deviation, and this includes the way he dresses.

When a man’s reputation or position within a group is robust, he can afford to dress in a way he wants. However, choosing to do so means he spends his available social capital on his appearance, at the expense of being able to so in other areas.

When a man’s reputation or position within a group is anti-fragile, he can’t afford to dress in a way that fits in with the standards. His identity as a rebel, outlier, and rake practically requires him to dress and act in a way which draws attention, rather than trying to avoid it.

Which bring it all back full circle. Whether the attention he gets is positive or negative, a real man understands that there are consequences to every action he takes. This knowledge is one of the largest things that separates a man from a child. Children bemoan the consequences. Men understand them and use them as a means to a desired end.

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Suit Fabric – 7 Tips for Choosing the Best Cloth for a Business Suit

20 August, 2015
Earlier this week I got an email from a client asking about some guidelines on cloth while having a suit custom made. Here’s my response.

1. Cloth Type – you’ll want to focus on 100% wool. Anything with cotton, linen, cashmere, silk, or mohair is going to be a bit too attention seeking, too seasonal, too formal, or too casual. 100% wool does the job you need.

2. Super Count – this is a system that’s used to determine the feel of the cloth. Without diving in too deep, it’s based on how tightly the fibers in an individual thread are twisted before the cloth is woven. It ranges from super 100 past 180. The lower the number the more coarse the cloth will feel but it will also be more durable. The opposite is true for higher numbers. The sweet spot for most work-horse suits is between 120-140.
3. Weight – get something that’s touted as all-season or 4-season. This is usually about 285 – 360 grams. Anything too heavy or too light won’t give you the versatility you need.
4. Weave – The more minimal the weave is, the better. Worsted wools, birdseyes, sharkskins, and nailheads are all appropriate for more conservative environments. More open weaves like hopsacks and basketweaves, or noticeable alternatives like a herringbone are considered to be a bit less formal.
5. Pattern – Solid is more formal and the least memorable – making it more versatile. Business appropriate patterns include pinstripes and glenn plaids. Just avoid anything too bold. I’d stick with a solid though.
6. Color – Go with navy or a mid-to-dark grey. Most guys think black but it’s too formal.
7. Country of Origin – Europe (especially western Europe) is king for a reason. The best mills are still located in Italy and England. Ask the clothier which mills they use and then do some homework on how long they’ve been around
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Look the Part

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11 August, 2015

A few months back a representative from Acura Financial Services (AFS) reached out to tell me about a program they’re offering for upcoming and recent college graduates called “Look the Part.”

With AFS, qualified college graduates can save $500 off of a (2015 or newer) Acura. These savings can be used towards anything the grad wants, but a little wardrobe upgrade is both mine and AFS’s recommendation. The style improvement can help ease the transition from college student to working professional.

AFS wanted my style recommendations to help their clients “Look the Part.” Major life transitions are an integral time to make changes in one’s appearance and avoid aesthetic inertia. For recent grads, it’s import to focus on key, timeless pieces that will look great and last as long as possible – singular items that will withstand the test of time.

So here are a few recommendations based on the different archetypes.

 

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A pair of double monkstrap shoes is about as versatile as a pair of shoes can get. They pair great with a suit and work equally as well with some chinos or dark jeans.

These from Beckett & Robb are hand-made and hand-painted in Italy by a small group of cobblers who create shoes for some of the best luxury brands in the world. Full-grain calfskin leather and a bologna-blake welt make them extremely durable and resoleable – meaning they’ll last as long as that new car.

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A briefcase may not actually carry many documents anymore, but it still needs to be part of a business wardrobe. Stowing a laptop, chargers, a protein bar, stain stick, and a deck of cards takes up more space than most men have in a jacket.

The slim briefcase from Saddleback Leather (review here) has a lifetime warranty, is made with no breakable parts, and looks dressed up enough to be elegant in any office environment. It’s large enough to carry the essentials without getting on the bulky side. I prefer the chestnut, but they have three other great shades to choose from.

Rakish

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JFK may have killed the hat but it’s coming back. Anyone who’s paying attention to what’s happening at the menswear shows in hubs like New York, Florence, and elsewhere has seen a steady increase of men in wide-brimmed straw hats over the last few years. It stands to reason as well. While we live in a climate-controlled world, we still like to spend our time outdoors and the functionality of a straw Panama is second to none.

Borsalino has worn the crown (pun very much intended) for years as the top hat maker in the world. Their top-of-the line model – the Montecristi – requires a huge investment of hours and sweat as each fiber is woven by hand. Its little brother has a similar level of construction but at a fraction of the price. The brim is a modest width that will flatter most face shapes and the lightness of the straw will make it easy to wear for hours.

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There are two types of sunglass wearers in the world – those who spend a little on each pair and don’t mind if they lose them, and those who invest and take care of their shades. I’m of the latter persuasion and believe a great pair of sunglasses, with a frame that compliments a man’s face shape, is a perfect, albeit subtle way, to communicate attention to detail.

A pair like the Oppl Suns from Oliver Peoples will stand out from the crowd without being too attention seeking. They’re a play off of the classic wayfarer that leans more modern in their shape and colorways.

Rugged

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A life that’s a little more rough and tumble doesn’t have to be confined to the aesthetic seen at the local big-box hunting store. In fact, the outdoorsman was the original man of style and there’s no better lifestyle suited to the perfect balance between form and function.

I’ve been an advocate for Wolverine’s Thousand Mile for years, and there’s good reason for it – they look great and last forever. I’ve been kicking mine around for almost four years now and the occasional shine is all they need to look like new. The contrast between a rugged boot and a luxury sedan or coup helps creates a little balance and communicates more than one dimension of masculinity. The $500 savings makes it easy to add in a matching belt as well.

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Leather won’t be needed for road protection in a car, but the attitude projected with a classic motorcycle jacket can go a long way. Throw it on over a pair of slacks and a tie to turn heads all night. The balance between Rugged and Refined is one of the best ways to show it’s possible dress well because one wants to, not because he has to.

That $500 may not get a Schott Perfecto brand new, but a moto jacket is much better picked up with a little bit of rubber and dirt worn in. Why pay extra for faux-distressing when it’s better to pick up a jacket that’s been worn hard off of a second-hand seller through a market like eBay?

Whatever a man’s style preference, it’s all about being consistent. A luxury vehicle is a purchase made for myriad reasons – performance, comfort, features. But one of the key reasons many of us opt for the next level in a car is because of the styling and what it communicates. That effect can be quickly and easily destroyed by stepping out of a gorgeous vehicle in the same schlumpy clothes worn to class as an undergrad. If a man is moving up in life, he needs to make sure he dresses like it.

To learn more about the program, check out AFS.com.

This content is sponsored by Acura Financial Services.

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Three Keys to Dressing Well

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21 July, 2015

While I was in Florence last month I was able to be part of one of the more interesting menswear-related discussions of my life. It was a debate between two men in the suiting world – one who chooses to use tailors in China for his company, and the other who won’t work with anyone but Italian artisans.

The man who was arguing in favor of the Chinese was making his main point by saying that they will do whatever it is he asks of them. It doesn’t matter if it’s a natural shoulder, a 90 degree notch lapel, double pick stitching, or any other detail he can think of. As long as he can provide them with a few good photos and maybe a tangible example of what he wants, they’ll do it. Not only will they do it, but they’ll replicate it on each garment and have it delivered to him and his clients by a precise date.

The man who was arguing for the Italian artisans was saying that menswear, and especially tailored suiting, is much more art than science and, while the Chinese may be able to replicate anything that’s thrown at them, they didn’t grow up steeped in the culture of suiting. It’s not the way they were raised and it’s not in their blood. He argued that the Chinese may have the hands to properly execute a specified detail, they don’t have the eye to create or appreciate the art of suiting to the same effect the Italians do.

The reason this is so interesting to me is because it translates over very well from the men who create clothing to the men who wear it. Over the years I’ve met and interacted with many men who understand the science of style but didn’t reflect any personality in their clothing. Their fits often appeared robotic, automatic, and bland – even if they did perfectly execute on all of the rules of style. Their was no art or personality to the clothing they wore.

On the other hand, I’ve met just as many men who were all art with no framework. They’d throw things on knowing they’d probably look good, but not necessarily knowing why. They had an inherent level of taste, but no way of understanding what that taste was based on. They missed a look almost as often as they nailed it.

None of this is new and I know I’m not the only blogger to try to articulate the need for both the science and art of clothing and appearance. However, I believe there’s a third part that doesn’t get discussed – the philosophy.

This may simply be another way of saying something I’ve been saying all along, but I believe it’s absolutely necessary to understand the impact of dressing a certain way. Style is not created in a vacuum and both the science and art are worthless if they’re not rooted in something more personal.

The longer I write about menswear the more I learn that it’s truly a medium by which a man can quickly communicate who he is and is place in the world.

My time in Florence was eye-opening in that I was surrounded by some of the biggest names in the industry and most of us were dressed similarly. There were few socks to be seen, higher waists on trousers, lots of straw hats, plenty of loafers, and a good mix of suits and jacket/trouser pairings.

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The key structures weren’t all that different, but the execution in the details provided ways that each man could express who he was. There were men who saw style as a personal uniform and wore the same three outfits, with very minimal variations, every day. Others wore items so garish that it was obvious that their primary goal was to stand out in a crowd of peacocks and their primary value was uniqueness. Still more had subtle variations but chose cuts and designs that emphasized the quality of the cloth or craftsmanship.

This bubble doesn’t only exist at an event like Pitti either. I notice the same phenomenon when I’m in the gym each week. There are men there who try a little too hard to act like they don’t care about their clothes and make it a point to wear old things each week. There are others who are outfitted in all the latest Reebok gear and embrace the aesthetic of the crossfit culture. Still more have subtle variations but choose to follow a pattern of shorts (not too baggy, not too loose), a solid T-shirt, and a clean pair of gym shoes.

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The same can truly be seen in any culture group in which men find themselves. Those who ride Harley’s dress differently than flattrack racers, who dress differently still from cafe guys. It can be seen in offices, gun clubs, football arenas, and capitol buildings.

All of these men, in any of these environments have a philosophy to their clothing. It may not be conscious or practiced, but it’s there. And, just like Jack and I talked about in our discussion, clothing is a tool each man should have on his belt. So knowing one’s own philosophy, developing it deliberately, and teaming it up with the science of style and a little bit of taste is the best way to wield that tool.

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