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City Home Collective Interview

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4 January, 2013

While the rest of the country is floundering, Salt Lake City has held itself together fairly well during the current depression (we all know it’s not really a recession). In fact, more than just towing the line, my little city has seen quite a bit of growth and expansion of new and existing businesses.

One of the recent changes has been a Real Estate Company called the City Home Collective. Oddly enough, they’ve become one of the largest and best lifestyle blogs focused on the greater Salt Lake area.

I was lucky enough to meet one of their agents/bloggers a month or so ago and he wanted to do a feature on me and what I do. It posted today and I’m very pleased with the favorable review. Go check it out and peruse their other articles. Lots of great locals and houses.

Go After It

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4 January, 2013

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I’ve been sitting on the above picture for quite a while. I love the unabashed way in which a lion goes after its kill. As men we should approach our lives the same way.  Lions hunt in groups. They rely on the pride to fulfill their given responsibilities so everyone can eat. Other men are not my competition, my own apathy is and if I pursue my goals without concern for the discomfort that comes with pushing myself I’ll be successful.

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Neal Caffrey Suits: Dress Like the White Collar Star

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3 January, 2013

Back in the fledgling days of this site I wrote a post about positive portrayals of masculinity on TV. One of the shows I addressed in that article was USA’s White Collar.

I’ve kept pace with the show since then and still enjoy watching each episode. The relationship between con man Neal and his FBI handler Peter Burke is a great example of how men interact with each other and learn to develop strong bonds of trust and friendship.

But today’s post isn’t about the show itself so much as Neal’s style. More often than any other example, I have clients tell me they want to dress and look like Caffrey. The tough part is that he’s decked out in designer suits and gear from head to toe. Thankfully, there’s a way to do it (relatively) on the cheap.

The Suit

Indochino Essential Three-Piece Suit

It really is all about the suit. Caffrey has a classic Rat-Pack look to him and thankfully it’s attainable with affordable suit options. Whether you buy off-the-rack and take it to a tailor or go the custom route via companies such as Beckett & Robb or Indochino, the key (as always) is getting the right fit. However, the right fit for a Caffrey look is slim to the point of skinny. Narrow lapels; two-button, single-breasted jackets; three-piece suits; minimal trouser break; and dual vents in the jackets are all crucial if you want the classy con man’s style.

The Shirt

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Unlike the rest of his wardrobe, the everyman can actually afford to buy the shirts used for Caffrey on set. Thomas Pink sponsors the show and their shirts come in just above $100. They’re not as cheap as lower-end stores at the mall but you pay for the quality you can’t get with a bargain shirt. Go with the super-slim fit. It’s rare to see Caffrey in a plain white shirt and he has a stark contrast and cool complexion. If you pay attention to the show, the colors they select for him always work with both his coloring and contrast. This is where you’ll need to change it up to flatter your own contrast type if you want to look as sharp as he does. Contrast collars, bold colors, multiple patterns, and small collars that work with his slim ties and lapels are what keep the shirts always looking great.

The Tie

Eggplant Polka Dot

Being a skinny guy I’m a fan of narrow ties – but Caffrey takes them beyond narrow and into skinny territory. This was very popular a few years ago with the resurgence of Mad Men and has waned a bit since. However, it’s crucial to nailing this look – especially because Caffrey’s style is rooted in the icons of the 60’s. On top of the size of the tie itself, the patterns are important. Keeping with the slimness of the rest of his ensemble, all the patterns in his ties are small – be it microprint checks, polka dots, or thin rep stripes. Keep it between two and three inches in width and make sure you pick up a tie bar or two. The show uses a lot of vintage finds for their bars and it’s been my recommendation as well. However, there are plenty of places that will throw in a tie bar along with your skinny ties to give you the whole look.

The Pocket Square

Solid Twill - Light Blue (PSq)

Caffrey is rarely without a square. He keeps his linen squares folded in the traditional “TV fold” and has a bit more nonchalance with his silk squares. Either way, it’s a guarantee that you’ll see a square when he’s wearing a suit. The key here is to stick with solid colors if you’re wearing a patterned shirt and tie. You can venture into patterned squares if you’re solid in either your shirt or tie as you don’t want too many competing patterns in a look. General rule is two patterns and the rest should be solids. Get your squares when you order your ties from the Tie Bar.

The Shoes

Allen Edmonds Kenilworth

While I’m a fan of browns for my dress shoes, a Rat-Pack look is all black. Along with being black you want something simple. Any broguing or wing tips will need to be minimal and the simpler you can get your shoes the better. Keep them shined as well, everything about Caffrey’s appearance is clean and refined so no roughness or distressing. You can go cheap from somewhere like Aldo but you’ll be sacrificing some serious quality. I recommend Allen Edmonds like those above.

The Hat

Aw yes, the hat. There’s no way to pull off a fedora discreetly. In our current day and age a traditional hat (especially on a young guy) is some serious peacocking. You have to embrace the fact that you’ll be getting negative comments and compliments about your hat from everyone you come into contact with. It’s tough to wear, but it’s also the only way to cap off (pun intended) the Caffrey image. $20 for something cheap from somewhere like Target or Forever 21 or you can pay a bit more for a quality hat from Nordstrom.

The Rest

Let’s be honest here. As great as Caffrey’s style is, the real reason he’s so compelling is because of his charisma and confidence. He’s more than just an empty mannequin off of which his suits effortlessly hang. His style is routed in who he is as a man. If you want to learn more about how masculinity ties in with clothing, and how Caffrey is more than just his great suits, sign up for the newsletter.


PS – Whenever you’re ready, I have three different ways I can help you improve your style.

If you want the easiest approach that tells you exactly what you should be wearing, check out my Effortless Style program.

If you want to better understand how to use your appearance to better communicate with others and build your own confidence and mindset, pick up my book The Appearance of Power.

And lastly, if you really want to get this dialed in without going through a ton of trial and error, you may be a great fit for my 1-on-1 coaching and can schedule a call with me to learn more about it HERE.

Streamline Your Wallet with Chester Mox

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20 December, 2012

Good style is all about the details – be it the shoes on your feet, your favorite pair of cufflinks, or getting that tie knot done just right. Paying attention to detail is what will separate the pros from those who are just learning.

In the past I’ve talked about the importance of trading out your Costanza wallet for something slimmer, more masculine, and more unique. A wallet is one of those finer details that won’t get noticed immediately, but does eventually. It also is one of those things that won’t necessarily make a great impression, but a bad wallet will break it.

I’ve been converted to the slim card case for almost ten years now. I’ve had more than a few and have even made a couple myself. However, last year there was a leather company that came on my radar named Chester Mox. Located in the heart of Los Angeles, they have been making wallets and passport holders for the last five years. Every piece is made by hand and laser cut to ensure accuracy and precision. They also make it a point to use top-quality Horween leather in each of their products. You’ll pay a bit more than you would for a cheaper brand, but a quality wallet is worth the investment.

I’ve had a chance to communicate with the men at Chester Mox and have really enjoyed getting to know them and their approach to their business. They’re a small operation and still retain all the personality that comes with that. They also are able to focus on quality over quantity.

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For the last month or so I’ve been able to rotate through two of their wallets – the Saffron side wallet and deep blue bi-fold . Both have held up very well, gotten me quite a few compliments, and even established a bit of resentment from my younger brother who is raw that I won’t give him one of them (I’m a jerk of an older brother like that).

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I originally asked to try out the side wallet and this was the one I was most excited for. The coloring is unique while still looking classic and the sizing is great. The point of getting a slim wallet is that you carry less. I have my license, debit card, credit card, concealed carry permit, small insurance card, and a $50 that I keep with me. That’s it. If I want to carry more cash than that I will bring a money clip.

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The other wallet they sent me was a billfold. I was initially a bit skeptical because these tend to bulk up quickly and easily but it’s been the wallet that has seen the most use of the two. I love this thing. The dark blue color is definitely something that I haven’t seen on another man and the leather is soft and supple. For a billfold it’s as small as they come, which means it doesn’t feel any different in my back pocket than the card case does. By having a bit more space I’m able to stuff a few business cards in there and not have to carry around my business card holder.

On top of using top-quality leather the beauty is in the details.

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All the hand-stitching is extremely clean and uniform.

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Lastly, their wallets allow for some customization. Each comes with a lazer-cut logo from Chester Mox but, for a little bit extra, you can have them do the same thing with a motto, name, or initials on your wallet. If you’re a fan of the monogram, it’s a great customization to have.

I had originally planned on doing this review with the typical break down of Good, Bad, and Fence but after having had these for a month I don’t have a single bad thing to say about them. I’m not even on the fence; these wallets are great. The only thing that might turn some men off is the price but it’s worth it when you realize you’re buying an item you will use daily and will last years.

PS. I’m having a holiday sale. You can get a Basic Consultation for only $15 and that $15 applies to new clients pursuing Event or Online Consultations as well.

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